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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

On behalf of Lilly Aramburo’s family and friends, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and the happiest of holidays. We’d like to thank you for all your kindness and support. We appreciate all your prayers for Lilly and wish you and your loved ones a safe and joyous holiday.

If you’re planning a holiday donation, please don’t forget the missing. A few charities in special need of funding which we recommend supporting are:
National Center for Missing Adults (NCMA)
Project Jason

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.


Yet Another Holiday Without Lilly – An Update

This will be our 2nd holiday without Lilly Aramburo. The feeling of great loss and grieving hasn’t stopped since her disappearance but Christmas is especially arduous. Emotions are raw. Most of Lily’s family is processing through this the same way we would with a death, except there’s no closure because Lilly’s body has not been found.

In the midst of all this suffering, there has been some progress though. Lilly’s mother, Lucely, requested a meeting with Captain Janna L. Bolinger-Heller from Miami Dade Police Department, she kindly agreed. Lucely, Joe Carrillo (private investigator), and I met with the Captain and Lieutenant Normando Gregorisch yesterday. It was our first time meeting Captain Heller in person, as well as Lieutenant Gregorisch. I must say, it was a very positive meeting. Obviously, I can’t disclose any details since it involves an open investigation. The last thing I want is to compromise the case and let violent criminals get away with murdering my friend. If all goes well, and everyone keeps to their word, I have no doubt…the truth will come out and this case will finally be transferred to homicide.

Please light a candle and say a prayer for Lilly and her family.


10 Ways to Deal With Grief and Loss During the Holidays

Imagine if your loved one was missing or a victim of murder….how would you cope with the holidays? While the holidays are a time of joy, going to parties and celebrations, for families coping with the loss of a missing or murdered loved one, it’s no picnic. Grief is a normal response to loss. When we experience grief, our thinking, feeling and behavior are deeply affected. Since the disappearance of my precious and dear friend, Lilly Aramburo – June 2, 2007, my life hasn’t been the same. Since then, it’s been quite a struggle to remain positive knowing she still has not been found. (Lilly’s mother and 2 year old child are pictured above) Sometimes if you’re grieving, its hard to experience genuine joy…especially during the holidays. But no matter how intense our feelings are, they are temporary and while painful, experiencing the process of grief is normal.

Here are a few tips that might help you if you’re grieving over the loss of a loved one:

  1. It’s ok to need comfort. Ask for, and accept the help.
  2. Talk about it. It’s essential you have someone who will help sustain you emotionally. Seek out a good friend, family member or someone in your faith community to talk to.
  3. Look at pictures of your loved one. Remember their voice and everything about them.
  4. Find a support group. Share memories of your loved one. Allow your emotions to surface in order to work through them.
  5. Keep a journal or blog. Some find it helpful to express themselves through art by painting, drawing or arts & crafts or by listening to music or singing.
  6. Create a memorial in his/her honor (If they loved flowers, plant or fund a garden)
  7. Get involved in a cause or organization that was important to them. Donate to them in your loved one’s name.
  8. Try to eat healthy and exercise.Take it one day at a time. Try meditation, it’s very beneficial for calming the mind.
  9. Support others who are grieving or experiencing loss, as well.
  10. Remember that your time on earth is limited and human life is precious.

Here are 5 ways friends can help:

  1. Be a good listener – Allow them to talk about their grief, or whatever they feel like expressing.
  2. Be non-judgmental. Do not criticize them…
  3. Support them by helping with household chores or cooking whenever possible. Their ability to do even simple tasks can be impaired. Don’t ask, just do it.
  4. If they’re going through a trial or court proceedings, this can be very trying – offer a shoulder to lean on.
  5. Send cards on important days such as their birthday, anniversary of their death or disappearance. Consider honoring their life by organizing a candlelight vigil and inviting the community.

We’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you have a missing or murdered loved one? Are you grieving? How are you coping with the holidays?